Naomi Bar-Yam, Mothers’ Milk Bank Northeast Founder and Executive Director, serving through 2020
As part of our 20th anniversary year, we’re taking time to reflect on how far we’ve come and where it all began. Before there was a milk bank serving the Northeast, there was an idea. A moment of recognition that families needed more, and a determination to meet that need.
That idea belonged to Naomi Bar-Yam.
Naomi’s vision, persistence, and deep empathy for families laid the foundation for everything that exists today. What began in her living room has grown into a community that now serves thousands of families each year.
As we look ahead, we do so with immense gratitude for Naomi’s leadership, the community that formed around her, and the many people who continue to carry this work forward.
How it began – our origin story . . .
“It doesn’t get better than saving babies lives,” explains Naomi regarding the origin of Mothers’ Milk Bank Northeast.
Naomi, mother of four, had two children who needed special care at birth. Her third child was born in Israel and was small for his gestational age, weighing 4.5lbs at birth. Her youngest child was born 6 weeks early in the Boston area and was also born weighing just 4.5lbs. This deeply personal experience of bringing medically fragile babies into the world was the origin of Naomi’s commitment to helping as many families as possible. Our own struggles are often what give us the deepest well of empathy for others experiencing similar challenges . . .
The power of “we” . . .
Several years later, when advocating for health care needs of family members, Naomi realized that Boston, arguably a medical capital of the world, didn’t have a milk bank. Indeed, in 2006 when Naomi began her personal milk bank journey, the closest milk bank was in Columbus, Ohio.
Naomi reached out to various lactation specialist colleagues and set up a meeting to discuss the lack of a milk bank in the area. Her intention was to brainstorm, to see how others might want to remedy this issue. She never imagined that this initial conversation would lead her to personally found the milk bank. And yet, this first informal meeting in her living room with a small number of dedicated advocates, many of whom are still connected to the milk bank, set Naomi on the path of starting what is today, Mothers’ Milk Bank Northeast.
Step by step, ounce by ounce . . .
Naomi is quick to point out how many people helped along the way. This list includes nurses, doctors, lactation specialists, neighbors, friends, friends of friends, all of whom with key skills in areas such as law, nonprofit management and logistics. Milk bank directors from around the country shared their practices and offered support, as did the accreditation organization Human Milk Banking of North America. The list goes on.
The milk bank grew first step by step and then by leaps and bounds. Initially, we distributed donor milk that had been screened and pasteurized by the Ohio milk bank. Meanwhile, Naomi introduced the medical community to the importance of donor milk and built relationships with local hospitals.
Science plays catch up . . .
In the early days, the use of donor milk was less familiar. Naomi had to overcome a lot of resistance from doctors. Some of it was rooted in discomfort with the decidedly personal aspect of giving a baby milk from another mother. But Naomi also recognized the more legitimate reluctance stemming from unfamiliarity with the science and research that proves that pasteurized donor milk is safe and promotes better health outcomes. Naomi learned as she went and so did the medical community.
All the while, the body of scientific research demonstrating the critical importance of donor milk for medically fragile babies and the superior safety record of donor milk grew along with it. Before she knew it, the milk bank was able to start screening our own milk donors and pasteurizing in our own lab to keep up with the growing numbers of hospitals and medical facilities relying on us.
From origin to legacy . . .
Reflecting on her years leading the milk bank before stepping down in 2020, Naomi is proud of the service she created and the community she built. She explains,
The milk bank provides so many people with the opportunity to give back in ways that work for them. It’s a place where people band together. A place where countless individuals can say, ‘This is my strength and I’m going to use it for babies.’
People give milk, they give money, they volunteer their time and/or guidance as Board members or advisors, they become employees and spend their days immersed in the mission and ensuring that babies get safe donor milk.
Each person takes a little bit of the milk bank with them. And that’s another way we spread the word and raise awareness. All those people in this circle of giving.
As we mark this 20-year milestone, Naomi’s story reminds us that this work has always been—and will always be—about people coming together to care for one another.
It’s a legacy we’re proud to carry forward.
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20 Years of Stories—We’d Love to Hear Yours
This anniversary is about more than marking 20 years. It’s about the people whose generosity, care, and support have made those 20 years possible. We wouldn’t be here without you.
Whether you’re a donor, recipient family member, healthcare professional, advocate, or supporter, you’re forever a part of our milk bank family. If donor milk has touched your life, we’d love to hear from you.
